It was so great to be with nature—away from all the technology. I basked in seeing beautiful mountains, looking up at the stars at night, smelling the campfire and listening to the trickling water. It was refreshing to get away from errands and chores and just be in the moment with the ones I love.
This month, I am focusing on the Family Pillar of Live a BIG Life. What perfect timing!
My family in Vegas consists of my daughter, son-in-law and their 2 children; and my son and his two boys. My big family consists of a step-son, aunts, uncles and lots of cousins who are spread throughout the United States.
Today, family has many dimensions and is defined in many ways. There are many “traditional” families and we have numerous blended families. “Family” also can include our good friends. In the broader context, family can include neighbors, community groups, professional colleagues and pets.
These relationships are important. They nurture (or take away) from our Spiritual Pillar. If these relationships are not healthy, they will deplete our Wellness Pillar. Your outside-of-work family dynamics can affect how you perform at work. These relationships will either support your endeavors or diminish your contributions at work. Your “work family” relationships will increase your happiness or deplete your energy at work which flows over to home.
I could have the most fabulous career or financial security, but that doesn’t mean a whole lot to me if I don’t have family to share my life with. This does not mean that I cannot be happy without family or good friends. I can and I am, but my life is so much richer when they are a part of it—when I stay connected.
Think about who you consider to be family.
DO THEY. . .
- have similar values?
- support your goals?
- accept you for who you are as a person?
- share in your successes?
- push you when you need a shove—especially when you play the “victim” role?
- love you unconditionally?
- tell you what you need to hear, even though you don’t want to hear it?
- forgive you?
- respect you?
- love you in spite of your weird habits or peculiarities?
- make time for you when you are going through tough times?
Now, switch roles and ask yourself these questions, again.
DO I. . .
- share similar values with my family?
- support their goals?
- accept them for who they are?
- share in my family and friend’s successes? Can I truly be happy for them?
- push a family member when they need it, so they can stop playing the “victim” role?
- love them unconditionally?
- tell them what they need to hear, in a loving way?
- forgive them completely?
- respect them?
- make time for my friends and family when they are going through tough times?
Wishing you a family-focused week at work and at home!