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Today’s chapter excerpt is from the chapter titled Reveal.
Leonard Nimoy said, “The miracle is this: the more we share, the more we have.”
We all struggle with sharing or revealing ourselves to others. But it takes a lot more of our energy and personal power away from success-oriented pursuits to hide ourselves.
Simply put, the “you” you do not share is the treasure we will never know. We will never be moved nor changed by your beauty, your gifts, your skills or your words. We will be less than we might have been, and all that you were to add to this world will lie dormant within your heart and mind.
And that is heartbreaking.
There is no “Hallmark card” perfect life or perfect family. We all struggle. We all have issues. (Yes, at last, let’s all ‘fess up!) Sometimes they are ones we’ve created; sometimes they are brought right to our very doorstep by those we love best. Sometimes it’s just being in the right (or wrong) place at the right (or wrong) time.
Let’s move beyond blame. Let’s reclaim our own power! Let’s be brave and real; fiercely loyal to our best selves.
Here is today’s excerpt:
We’ve all heard of “the imposter theory” wherein each person struggles with the idea that she does not know nearly as much as she fears others must think she knows.
There is another big struggle for us: whether or not to reveal ourselves to others. Our frailty. Our dreams, both possible or improbable. Our real-life situations. Our shortcomings. Our joys.
How much should we share? How little? For many of us, the combined baggage of lost friendships or stressful work relationships, failure, error, and lost opportunity has rendered us gun shy as adults, based on negative past experiences.
Be Open about Your Challenges
We each face challenges everyday – some of them are minor while others may be major. There are work challenges, situational challenges, our personal frame of reference challenges. We each have our shortcomings. We each struggle to admit when we are lost or don’t know something. Sometimes, we are presented with a new scenario or task and we feel overwhelmed by it.
Some executive assistants are more comfortable with sharing themselves than others are.
Leaders are fortunate in that they can bounce ideas off each other; group meetings are readily available to them; they have industry-peers to speak to … and the list goes on and on. They typically have industry or business practice “subject matter experts” to call upon for experience and knowledge.
Executive assistants and administrative professionals have little opportunity on a daily basis to sit and converse with their peers regarding the challenges they are facing at work.
The key is to be open about what you are dealing with. Often administrative professionals, as other career professionals, feel inadequate if they admit they really don’t know how to handle something or approach a new situational arena. Yet admitting your shortcomings and lack of knowledge is one of the most liberating experiences. Why? Because when you admit what you don’t know and say to yourself, “I need help. Who can I talk to? Who can I go to for guidance? Maybe I need a mentor in this area,” then a new world opens up to you.
Nancy Fraze, Contributing Author, Who Took My Pen … Again? Secrets from Dynamic Executive Assistants