Hello, Monday Motivator fans!
I am back from my extended break of focusing on my Wellness Pillar. [Why was I gone in the first place?]
It feels good to be back in the saddle writing again after a long break while recovering from my brain surgery. Now that I am back, I want to continue with our theme for 2014 whereby monthly topics revolve around My BIG Life concepts.
For November, I have selected BIG resilience. Obviously this is something I have been focusing on and working hard at embracing the past several months. To be honest, some days I feel highly resilient and other days I do not. I have personally learned over many years, that resiliency is NOT about . . .
- Never falling off your mountain
- Life being perfect
- Always being courageous
It just so happens that we have chosen resilience as the theme for our 2015 Annual Conference for Administrative Excellence. Because of that, I have been researching this topic a great deal and plan to share various aspects of resiliency with you this month.
One definition of resilient is “to bounce back from adversity, disappointment, failure and learn from them.” This is a time-worthy topic as all of us have to be resilient with all the ups and downs at work and in our personal lives. Organizations are expecting employees to be resilient and agile.
How has 2014 been treating you? Have you experienced some disappointments this year? Are there some dreams you set in January that have not come true? Are there people at work or home who have disappointed you? Have you not received a raise this year because your company’s profits have suffered? Or maybe you are currently in a situation where you need to be resilient. Do you know the difference between a mistake, failure, disappointment and adversity? While there may be some overlap, each has different elements and feelings attached to them.
9 Steps to Being Resilient
So, what is a person to do? How do you bounce back?
- Identify: Adversity is different from disappoints and failures. Was or is your situation an adversity, disappointment or failure? Or maybe it was a mistake.
- To bounce back, we should take time to reflect on what happened. How do we feel about what happened?
- Accept that you might have to work harder at bouncing back from adversity than a simple disappointment.
- Talk to a good friend at work or home about your setback, adversity or failure. Hopefully they will be a good listener. Sometime we just need someone to hear us out.
- Gather information from experts, mentors or coaches who can help you positively move forward.
- Take responsibility and course correct where necessary.
- Take baby steps and be easy on yourself as you bounce back.
- Seize the moment and make the best of it that you can.
- Grasp the idea of resilience and course corrections as part of our learning and working journey.
I wish you the best of luck in not only bouncing back, but thriving!
Catch up on the “BIG Year” in Monday Motivators – every week has been archived for you here.